The Art of Letting Go: Reflections on Patience, Love, and Self-Care

The Art of Letting Go: Reflections on Patience, Love, and Self-Care | Chronically Climbing

If I could give my younger self some advice, one thing I would tell her is, “Know when to take a break and when to break up.” This philosophy applies to various areas of life, from romantic relationships to friendships to the workplace. Understanding when to take a break and when to break up can help you build resilience, set boundaries, and cultivate patience, all of which contribute to personal growth.

We have limited time on Earth and a place in line that we often cannot predict and is beyond our control. Therefore, we should use our time thoughtfully and in alignment with our core values. It’s important to identify our core values. Write them down and hang them on a wall — somewhere you can see them every day. This simple act can transform how you navigate life, trust me!

Life is not a fairytale, so seeking contentment will serve you well. I don’t say that grimly, but practically, so you can truly live with more gratitude. Doing so will help you find greater fulfillment in your days and learn to appreciate the small things that enrich your life.

Enjoy the little things

Life consists of countless precious moments. When you reflect on these moments with gratitude, you’ll realize how complete your life already is. For example, if your dog pulls a little too hard on the leash, try to focus on how wonderful it is that they are healthy rather than feeling upset. Similarly, if your partner points out an area for improvement, consider that they love you enough to help you grow. Often, those who care about us most are the most willing to be direct and honest.

If you accidentally burn dinner, consider how fortunate you are to have backup ingredients to try again. I don’t want to minimize your frustration or suggest that everyone has the best intentions. While it’s important to assume positive intent, being curious and trusting your instincts when dealing with people or situations that raise red flags is also healthy.

Ultimately, we must acknowledge our feelings but remember that our perspective matters most in life. It’s the only thing that is truly within our control.

Instead of doubting your abilities when faced with a work task, view it as an opportunity for growth. Remember that you don’t have to be an expert when learning something new; setting such a standard for yourself and others is unrealistic! Embrace the process of learning and the concept of “failing forward.” There is no reason to fear failure; instead, you should be afraid of never failing, as that would mean you haven’t grown or changed. Have the courage to be a beginner and focus on your development.

Productivity cannot exist without rest

Always remember the value of rest on your growth journey. Sometimes, it is the most productive thing you can do for yourself. Allow yourself to decompress, be mindful, meditate, and stay present in the moment. Making time for rest will help you re-engage when your body and mind are ready. There is no shame in taking a moment to breathe, rest, or step away from something. You must prioritize what is best for you to show up as your best self for those you love and respect.

Your best self may be at 78% one day, 23% another, and rarely at 100%. You are not “Lucy”; despite our advancements — or if you’re a person with diabetes like me, our many “robot” parts — we are still human. If you, too, reflect on the new year ahead, remember that you don’t have to wait until the end of the year to start fresh. You can begin now — whether you’re 64 years old, it’s a Wednesday, or even if it’s 11:05 PM. Start when it feels right for you.

Break the cycle. There is never a perfect time to change. Only you have the power to make a change within yourself, and even if you choose not to change, that is a choice, too.